how we handle conflict in relationship is often an old program running, installed in early development. Reactions that feel out of our control can be reprogrammed by attuning to the process of your internal sensory reaction to the external environment, to be able to put techniques in place that offer space to choose your external response/ action. This attunement to yourself builds your window of tolerance, to tolerate the ups and downs before they overwhelm, and to move the feeling through you when overwhelmed, so you are not stuck in one state.